The Power of Gratitude
Stress. Overwhelm. Burnt Out. Drained. Exhausted. Lost. Alone.
Do these words resonate with you?
If you are a working mom like me, you can understand the immense pressures of answering to everyone else’s needs except your own, while dealing with unexpected circumstances and wondering when will the chaos ever stop. Trying to figure out how to balance work, home, children, aging parents, let alone implementing and practicing self-care, stress is an epidemic affecting millions of working women in North America.
Our society has been built upon a foundational structure and schedule that doesn’t incorporate the needs of women, and we as women have become increasingly disconnected from ourselves and what it means to actually BE a woman, a mom and listen to our needs.
After the birth of my first child, I was challenged in ways I thought would never be presented to me at work and at home. Becoming a mother is an immense transition without any added stressors! I was floored, I felt confused about motherhood, about my role in the world, about the way I thought I was doing all of the right things to secure my future, my family’s future.
I remember the day like it was yesterday. I was spiralling, wasn’t able to sleep, had constant recurring negative thoughts that would keep me up at night. I felt tired all the time. I had just welcomed this incredible human into the world and I was being challenged at work and at home in so many new ways. I wasn’t built for this...for motherhood, for this immense change.
It came to a point where I knew on an internal level that I had to make a change. I was sick and tired, of being sick and tired.
I turned to gratitude.
For 6 months straight, every single day, I made a decision to write down 10 things I am grateful for in a journal. In the beginning it was like pulling teeth, it was really difficult to come up with 10 things, let alone 1. I could feel the resistance big time. I didn’t think I had much to be grateful for.
I originally started this practice as a blog. I wrote 10 things on a blog, at night before bed, every day. Some days I couldn’t think of much, so I wrote the same things I did the night before. I kept it simple, I would look for the smallest details I could find. Like my bed, or clean drinking water.
I stuck to this practice for 6 months straight. Every day, no excuses. AND, I continue to do it most days, 5 years later.
A gratitude practice has changed my life in so many incredible ways. Ways I never thought possible for me.
Today, I feel free, I have completely changed my perspective on life and the world. I truly believe that I am deserving of receiving and giving love. I feel connected to myself and to others. I can see the beauty in all of the ‘small’ things, which aren’t really that ‘small’ after all.
Now I left my career in corporate, I restored my belief in myself, am prioritizing my well-being and am working in a way that supports me and my family.
And I can see what a gift all of these experiences have been that led me down this meaningful new path.
Are you curious about how a gratitude practice can support your wellbeing?
You can start right now. What is one thing you are grateful for?
Mel Tranter is a certified Integral Associate Coach + Movement Instructor. She helps overwhelmed, success driven mothers find calm, gain clarity and grounded confidence through 1:1 coaching and movement practices. Mel helps you strengthen your mind and body connection so that you can be present in your life, with your family; with your kids and INjoy your life as a working mom. Mel shares weekly wisdom on her podcast 'Find Your Calm', available on all streaming platforms. www.meltranter.com